Spiritual Daddies: The Black Woman’s Curse

Following up to my last article on why the majority of black women are single, there was an issue that came up as one of the main reasons; too much spirituality. There is no denying that black people, especially black women are the most religious people in the world. And over the last few years black spirituality has taken another level, with single women acquiring new male role models. The Spiritual Daddies also known as Papas or spiritual Fathers. This has become a widespread phenomenon, especially in Africa.

Spiritual Daddies are a big trend among black people, they have become demi-gods that people bow down to and worship in order to get breakthroughs. I believe this is one of the major reasons why black women are struggling to find relationships. Women who have spiritual Daddies see these men as more important than their own biological fathers. The spiritual daddies will have complete control over every decision they make in life, especially that of their love life.  Most of the spiritual Daddies do encourage black women to stay single and focus on God until the right man comes. According to them, the right man is supposed to come from within the church not from the world. However statistics prove that they are more women than men in black churches. So obviously in most cases the right man never comes simply because he doesn’t exist in the first place.

I was in a black UK church for two years. I went into this church a married home owner and came out a homeless single mother and the sad thing is my case is not isolated. Most black churches, especially in the UK actually do cause the breakdown of many black marriages. But that is not the only problem with the black Pentecostal charismatic churches. I saw many black single women being discouraged from dating. Men who wanted to date the single women had to get permission from the spiritual Daddies first, and were knocked off before they even approached the woman. Women will be encouraged to engage in church activities like prayers and fasting whilst their biological clock ticks, and each day they will be believing that miraculously God will bless them with  Mr Right.

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Black men need to be role models to their daughters

I think its a tragic state of the black community today, not just in Africa but all over the world. Black women are so desperate for father figures.  Black men has seen this as an opportunity to make millions from gullible black women. Nowadays being a Papa or  a Spiritual Daddy is big business that pays in the black industry. You will not see this trend so prevalent in any other race. Only black people believe that to be successful in life you need a spiritual Daddy to bless you. To me it sounds almost like a mental illness. It’s pathetic and embarrassing. This is one thing that makes me feel embarrassed to be part of the black race. The spiritual craziness that looks like circus freak shows. I ask God why my people are so retarded like this when it comes to spirituality. Is it a curse?

Countries like Zimbabwe, Nigeria and Ghana seem to be on top of the list in Africa when it comes to the Spiritual Daddy syndrome. In Zimbabwe men like Ezekiel Guti, Emmanuel Makandiwa, Walter Magaya and Uebert Angel have made a living through being spiritual Daddys. In Nigeria you have men T B Joshua. These demi gods believes that any one who criticizes them will be cursed by God, and sadly a lot of black people believes it.  It’s no surprise that most of their followers are single black women. I recently watched a nauseating live video where Ezekiel Guti visited one of his church branches in America, Dallas. Women where waiting for him at 2am at the airport with young children. They were calling it a historical moment that Ezekiel Guti had visited their church to “bless” them. When he arrived they sang praises to him and if he touched any of them it was as though they had been touched by God himself.

Recently I also watched a disturbing video where Zimbabwean “prophet” Walter Magaya was publicly shaming a woman in his church. He stood her up and accused her of spreading rumors about him. Would he have done this to her if she was his real daughter? Why would any woman call such a man Father?

Last month Ghanain Bishop Daniel Obinim who calls himself “The Angel Of God” caused a storm on social media after he beat a teenager in front of his entire congregation for “fornicating”. This young woman was pregnant when he was whipping her. His defense was that he was her spiritual father so he was disciplining his daughter. Some of the abuses that are committed by these spiritual daddies in the name of discipline are shocking. But what is more shocking is that black people will still continue to flock to these churches in millions despite all the scandals and abuses.

My heart bleeds for any woman who has to look at another man as her Father. This phenomenon has destroyed the black woman’s dignity. Its a pandemic.  Part of me feels that most of these black women were let down by their biological fathers. If their fathers had given them the love and attention they needed, they would have never had to look at a stranger and call him “Daddy”. I believe spiritual Daddies are an insult and shame to all black men out there?

I was encouraged when Kirk Franklin gave his daughter Carrington away in marriage this year. The tribute he gave to his daughter was something to be commended. Kirk Franklin’s daughter is one black woman who will never need a spiritual Daddy, she has her father. Its sad that there are not enough role models for black men in the media like Kirk Franklin. Black men are known to be absent fathers to their daughters. What is more intriguing about Kirk Franklin was that Carrington is not his biological daughter, he is her step father. There need to be more black men out there like Kirk Franklin who need to be heroes to their own daughters and not wait for some con men to abuse your daughter in the name of “Spiritual Daddy”.

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Kirk Franklin with Daughter Carrington

A lot of other races in the world make it without spiritual daddies.They build empires and strong economies without being blessed by Papas.  People become millionaires without spiritual daddies. People are living fulfilled lives out there without Papas. And to black women, may I say this to you: women of other races get married and live fulfilling lives without spiritual daddies. You do not need them either. A spiritual Daddy will not get you a husband. Having a spiritual daddy doesn’t bring you any closer to God. It doesn’t make you any holier than any of us without spiritual daddies. If anything it makes you gullible and it strips you off your pride. This phenomenon is nothing but a curse to the black woman, because she is the only woman in the world who can be lured by a man calling himself a Spiritual Daddy.

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14 thoughts on “Spiritual Daddies: The Black Woman’s Curse

  1. From the perspective of a white person I can honestly say with my hand on my heart, I do understand what you feel about those racist remarks. The reason I can say I understand from a white person’s point of view. Is I am also in a group of people who get picked on and ridiculed just as much as people do for the color of their skin. That group I think you will agree are the disabled, and as a disabled person I feel very passionately about any form of discrimination. So I do understand and support your views on how racism and discrimination in general is becoming slipping down a slippery slope where people are becoming more accepting about things that normally they would not stand for, It is sadly something that people just think is just a joke, and what is a joke to some is very hurtful and insulting to others. So please I beg you don’t give up your fight against racism, if you do then they have won, and those of us who campaign against such remarks have lost another fighter. So please, please keep on fighting the endless fight because, as in those immortal words of Dr Martin Luther King, “I had a dream” and that is the dream that one day we will all be treated equal. But till that date we must keep on fighting. Please keep on following the cause from a friend, thank you.

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  2. Thank you Jean.
    The spiritual Daddy of a thing has destroyed many marriages and many single sisters. Many of this spiritual daddy’s lied to these women in the name of prophesy. they will tell them God said this young man is not your God ordained husband e.t.c. all these things actually is to make the sisters stay clued to the spiritual daddy’s so as to pay tithes and offerings. Sure, if she get married she would have to leave the church and moved on with her husband, hence the pastor will prevent the sisters from getting married. We have a lot of them in Nigeria.

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  3. Thank you for informing black women about these men who pray on vulnerable women to keep their pockets full and them single. I attend church several times a month and been a member of my church for almost 20 years. I’ve seen the marriage breakdowns but dare not say anything because I am single. I thought I was crazy thinking that the church does not support marriage. I’m so glad to have found this site. Will be sharing this article.

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  4. Dear Jean Gasho.

    You are right that many are blindly following a corrupted prosperity gospel that appeals to the flesh. The bible says many will turn to false prophets who preach to tickle their ear;
    2 Timothy 4:3
    “For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear”¨

    Jesus himself said there would be many false prophets:
    Matthew 24:4-6
    “4 Jesus answered: “Watch out that no one deceives you. 5 For many will come in my name, claiming, ‘I am the Messiah,’ and will deceive many. 6 You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come.”

    Jesus himself said there would be two churches ; the WISE and the FOOLISH. The foolish went to buy oil. Right now they are busy buying and the false merchants of anointing oil are making a killing:
    Matthew 25New International Version (NIV)

    The Parable of the Ten Virgins
    25 “At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. 2 Five of them were foolish and five were wise. 3 The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them. 4 The wise ones, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. 5 The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep.

    6 “At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here’s the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!’

    7 “Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. 8 The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’

    9 “‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’

    10 “But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut.

    11 “Later the others also came. ‘Lord, Lord,’ they said, ‘open the door for us!’

    12 “But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I don’t know you.’

    13 “Therefore keep watch, because you do not know the day or the hour.”

    The BIBLE IS THE WORD OF GOD AND WE MUST USE IT AS OUR BALANCE AND IF YOU MEASURE WHAT IS BEIGN DONE IN THE NAME OF JESUS you will see many IMPOSTORS ENTERED THE HOUSE AND THEY ARE BLIND GUIDES, DEFILING MANY AND BEING DEFILED THEMSELVES;
    Matthew 23:16 “Woe to you, blind guides! You say, ‘If anyone swears by the temple, it means nothing; but anyone who swears by the gold of the temple is bound by that oath.’
    Matthew 15:13-14
    “13 He replied, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots. 14 Leave them; they are blind guides.[a] If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

    They promise them freedom when they themselves are slaves of depravity:
    2 Peter 2:18-20

    “18 For they mouth empty, boastful words and, by appealing to the lustful desires of the flesh, they entice people who are just escaping from those who live in error. 19 They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for “people are slaves to whatever has mastered them.” 20 If they have escaped the corruption of the world by knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and are again entangled in it and are overcome, they are worse off at the end than they were at the beginning.”

    YES, THERE IS TOO MUCH CORRUPTION, PORN, SEXUAL SIN, OCCULT, EVIL IN THE CHURCH! THE CHURCH IS THE WORST PROSTITUTE ON EARTH RIGHT NOW! THEY ARE PREACHING ANOTHER GOSPEL. JESUS NEVER PREACHED THE SELLING OF ANOINTING OIL. NO! HE BEAT THOSE WHO WERE SELLING IN THE TEMPLE GROUNDS;
    John 2:13-15New International Version (NIV)

    Jesus Clears the Temple Courts
    “13 When it was almost time for the Jewish Passover, Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14 In the temple courts he found people selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money. 15 So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.”

    THIS IS THE HOUR TO BE WISE or FOOLISH!
    JOB 28:28 DEFINES TRUE WISDOM. THAT IS THE WISDOM LACKING IN THE CHURCH. THEY HAVE NO FEAR OF GOD, THAT IS WHY THEY ARE DOING ALL THE NONSENSE YOU SEE:
    Job 28:28

    “28 And he said to the human race,
    “The fear of the Lord—that is wisdom,
    and to shun evil is understanding.”

    THE MESSIAH IS COMING AND THE WHOLE BIBLE IS ABOUT THAT. REVELATION 16:15. HE IS COMING LIKE A THIEF AND MANY WILL BE LEFT BEHIND BECAUSE OF THE NUDITY, COMEDY, REPULSIVE WORSHIP THEY ARE BUSY WITH WORSHIPING THE GOLDEN CALF OF PROSPERITY;
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    Exodus 32:1 [ The Golden Calf ] When the people saw that Moses was so long in coming down from the mountain, they gathered around Aaron and said, “Come, make us gods who will go before us. As for this fellow Moses who brought us up out of Egypt, we don’t know what has happened to him.”

    THE MESSIAH IS COMING FOR A HOLY CHURCH:
    Hebrews 12:14New International Version (NIV)

    Warning and Encouragement
    14 Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.

    Revelation 16:15

    15 “Look, I come like a thief! Blessed is the one who stays awake and remains clothed, so as not to go naked and be shamefully exposed.”

    INDEED, MANY WILL BE EXPOSED ON THAT DAY AND THERE WILL BE WEEPING AND GNASHING OF TEETH:
    Matthew 8:12 But the subjects of the kingdom will be thrown outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”

    Matthew 22:12-14New International Version (NIV)

    12 He asked, ‘How did you get in here without wedding clothes, friend?’ The man was speechless.

    13 “Then the king told the attendants, ‘Tie him hand and foot, and throw him outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

    14 “For many are invited, but few are chosen.”

    IT IS WISE TO GO OUT FROM THE FAKE CHURCHES. SEEK THE LORD WHILE HE MAY BE FOUND. WITHOUT THE HOLY SPIRIT THE CHURCH IS IN DARKNESS. OUR GOD IS HOLY, AND HE DEMANDS THAT WE WORSHIP IN HOLINESS, NOT COMEDY!

    GOD IS SO HOLY! HE IS SEPARATED FROM SIN! THIS IS THE HOUR TO PREPARE WELL FOR THE COMING OF THE MESSIAH WHEN YOU SEE ALL THE NONSENSE GOING ON IN THE CHURCH. SEPARATE FROM THAT EVIL, THAT FILTH !
    REPENT AND TURN AWAY FROM ALL SIN.
    THE MESSIAH IS COMING!
    THE KING IS COMING!
    PREPARE THE WAY IN RIGHTEOUSNESS AND HOLINESS THROUGH REPENTANCE OF SIN.-

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  5. Hi Jean, thank you for the arctile. Its tue what you are saying. Us black women we lack the father figure in our lives. I always wonder why most of the women l know who attend these churches spent 75% of their time at these churches, day and night. I have a sister who refused to come to Cape town to work. ( after the trouble of getting her a job) she said she cant make it cuse at at the moment she is by her Pastor’s house. Who stays by the pastor’s house??

    I still Hope and pray for a miracle

    By the way thanks for responding to my message

    Regards

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  6. Hi Jean, thank you for the arctile. Its tue what you are saying. Us black women we lack the father figure in our lives. I always wonder why most of the women l know who attend these churches spent 75% of their time at these churches, day and night. I have a sister who refused to come to Cape town to work. ( after the trouble of getting her a job) she said she cant make it cuse at at the moment she is by her Pastor’s house. Who stays by the pastor’s house??

    I still Hope and pray for a miracle

    By the way thanks for responding to my message

    Regards

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