Hair is the crown of a woman, it defines her. It’s her beauty and glory. But for the black woman, hair is more than just hair. Its a controversial issue. It’s political and highly sensitive. It brings up so many debates. Black people themselves are divided when it comes to their hair.
For me, my hair has been an emotional journey. When I was a teenager, I hated my natural hair and wanted it to be straight and long. I had my first straight weave at 19, and I remember getting so much compliments. One white woman at work was in wonder of my hair. I told her that it was a weave, and she said to me, “That is so clever, how do you make it look so real”. She saw the beauty of having extensions weaved into my own hair that it looked so real. She went on to tell me that it amazed her how black women could do so much with their hair.
However somewhere in my mid twenties, I had a revelation about my hair. I discovered that my natural hair was more beautiful and fell in love with it, and since then I have never relaxed my hair. I vowed never to wear a weave again. I wanted to keep my hair natural, and not do anything else to it. I wrote articles on how black women had to wake up and love their natural hair. I lectured black women that they had to stop trying to imitate white women’s hair and embrace their God given beauty.
My natural hair was beautiful, but the more I kept it that way the more I realized it was so difficult to maintain. So I had to braid it to maintain it. And at one point I felt somehow confused by my own convictions. Sometimes I looked at weaves and admired them.
Sometime last year I went into the history of black hair. How black women wore their hair before slavery and colonization. I discovered something extra ordinary. Because of the textures and uniqueness of Afro hair, it is very dry and doesn’t lock in moisture thus making it difficult to grow and maintain. Black women never kept their hair upbraided or unlocked. Black hair was always high maintenance. Black women always wore their hair in elaborate hairstyles. They also changed their hairstyles often, it was like a fashion statement. They weaved the hair like baskets, they waxed it with animal fat. They braided the hair, they molded it with dung. They changed hair colors with mud and henna. They put colorful beads in their hair. They grew their hair long with dreadlocks. In fact Afro hair on a black woman simply meant her hair was not done.
So this education about black hair history made me realize that black women are still victims of their beauty today. Yes slavery and colonization played a huge part in us wearing straight weaves and thinking that’s the standard of beautiful good hair. But almost all black women have woken up to this truth and those who wear weaves do so because its their choice. Most black women do not even straighten their hair anymore, natural hair is now a trend. Black sisters who have embraced their natural hair have a movement of shaming weaves and saying #WeavesMustFall. But black women who are in the natural hair movement should not force the black women who wear weaves into their convictions. Each woman has her own hair journey at her own time. Black men should also stop mocking black women for wearing weaves.
The black hair industry is a billion dollar industry. And the people making billions out of our hair diversity are Asian men. Most hair shops in the UK are owned by Asian men. Its sad that if a black person opens a hair shop, black people will not support it, end off. They would rather buy their hair from the Asian corner shop.
The black men would rather spend time recording You Tube videos and mocking their own black sisters for wearing weaves and dying their hair, whilst Asian men see it as a business opportunity and make millions out of it.
If a black woman dyes her hair blonde, she is accused of trying to be white. Yet most black women who go blonde do it with short, natural kinky hair because it looks unique and daring. Its never about trying to be white. It’s about creativity and expressing yourself by trying on different looks. Most black women look stunning in gold or blonde hair colors.
I think its rather sad, that black women are ridiculed and mocked by their own black men for their beauty. They are ridiculed for how they wear their hair. Black American Tony Sotomayor has made a career out of mocking black women and their hair. And they are many men like him.
White women can imitate a black woman’s beauty and pump their lips and pump their buttocks, but no white men will ever laugh at them. Kim Kardashian has made a career out of looking like a black woman, but no one shames her for it. In fact she has millions of followers because of her imitation of black beauty.
To for my black sisters out there, if you want to bleach your hair to blonde, gold, pink or grey, go for it and dare to be different. Its not a sin and no one will go to hell for it. If you want to braid your hair with grey or purple extensions, its okay too, some tribes in Africa even use red mud for their hair, and no one laughs at them. If you want to wear a weave, its okay too. If you want to lock your hair, its even better. Locks makes your natural hair grow down to your butt. If you want to put a headscarf on, they look stunning on women of color. If you want to keep your natural, that’s pretty special. I am all for natural hair movement as it’s the healthiest way to keep your hair.
Black women lets embrace the diversity of our hair. That’s our identity and glory. Never be afraid to color your hair, cut it off, weave it, crop it, wax it, braid it or lock it. We do not need to be divided or pull each other down about it. We are the only race that can pull all these hairstyles off, and there is nothing embarrassing or shameful about it.
I will change my hairstyles as often as I please, and no one will tell me that what I have done with my hair is politically incorrect or morally wrong, and for the record I do not want to be white, I am a black woman who has experienced freedom of my beauty, and for that the sky is the limit. I have come to that place as a black woman, where I will do whatever I want with my hair, that is the beauty of being a woman of color.
6 thoughts on “Black Women’s Hair: The Controversy Of Wearing Weaves And Going Blonde”
We should be able to wear our hair as we please, but I’m no less concerned about the women closest to me who clearly hate their hair they have been conditioned to do so. My mother would prefer that my sister and I not wear our hair in its natural state because, according to her, we don’t “have good hair.” Her disparaging remarks make me certain that her relaxer is, unfortunately, very much about not showing the world her real hair.
That said, there is too much pressure put on black women to wear their in a certain way. People love to beat up on us. We try to resolve competing issues (some of us actually hating our features versus others just wanting to change their hair up sometimes) the best way we can, but no one is ever really satisfied. I’d like to just let my mother’s opposition to her hair go (live and let live as they say), but it’s pretty hard to hear your own mother speak badly about herself and her children.
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Wow I can certainly relate to that especially about mothers. I have taken it upon myself to make my two daughters love their natural hair and they will never taste hair relaxer untill they are adults if they choose to. I also teach them that darker skin is beautiful and so are black features. Our mothers where colonized and passed on a lot of self-hate to us. Not only about hair but mostly about darker skin too. My mother actually thought thick lips were ugly. And I have thick lips so it’s sad. But it wasn’t entirely their fault it was ignorance and self hate.
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I love my natural hair for 13years. Whether men like it or not, who cares. I was also teased by black adults and kids in school, which should have scarted me for life,but education prevailed. Sisters,embrace ur african heritage. My opinion,the natural shows ur inner strength, and beauty. People say,” wow sister u wearing that natural”. I feel good inside. I also dont like colorred hair. Natural or weaved. It has a freakish look to me, not hating, but go natural all the way.
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I really enjoyed this piece. Thanks for writing it
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Warm greetings everyone! Without biting about the bus, black females are TRAINED by society that their hair is ugly and deserve to he hidden as if God made a mistake. These people deeply wish they were oriental or caucasian by looking at their behaviour of wearing outrageous coloured wigs, bleach their skin, and now wearing human hair. The greedy people know how to make these people more insecure and trick them with phony solutions and a result pay more.
I get so excited to see black nuns, schoolgirls and some Christian women with REAL hair. It is worth to mention that wigs are so unhygienic and smells like a wet dog.
It’s impossible for black women to appreciate their original hair etc because they think that being black is more like leprosy or albinism. Someone said, ” You were born original so don’t die a copy.”….Congratulations to real black women on being real.
Interesting article. Thanks to the writer.