Yes, Because Of Facebook Personality Mike Tashaya, I Have Decided To Leave Facebook

  • I have read enough stories of teenagers committing suicide after being bullied on Facebook
  • I have seen women being called names on Facebook that has affected their self-esteem for the rest of their lives.
  • Over the past week, for the first time, I can say I have become a victim of Facebook bullying by a Zimbabwean Facebook Personality called Mike Tashaya, along with a number of his 20 000 followers. 
  • The bullying and harassment from Mike Tashaya and a lot of his followers has become so bad, so much I felt it affect my unborn baby, who is due in 4 weeks. 
  • For that reason, Mike Tashaya and his followers, I refuse to allow myself to continue in an environment that is putting my health and that of my unborn child at risk. 
  • I am a strong woman, but I have my unborn baby to think of, who right now is not as strong as me. 

I have been blogging/writing for almost 9 years. My first blog was in 2008, where I decided to blog simply because of my thirst for writing. The blog was about my spiritual journey when I became a born again Christian. Within 3 months of starting this blog, it attracted a lot of atheists and it was featured on the Richard Dawkins website. It was also featured on American TV shows and Christian radio shows. I had people asking to advertise on my blog because of the traffic. I found this very overwhelming as I was very new to social media. I had just given birth and could not handle the pressure, so I deactivated the blog. I want to make it clear that on this blog, I only had one Zimbabwean follower, the rest of Zimbabwe did not even know me, even though the blog was successful.

My second blog was in 2013. I started the blog in a women’s refuge after horrendous abuse from a church and my ex-husbands family. I had no one to talk to, no one to help me, and the only way I had of expressing myself was to write. Within 24 hours the blog had gone viral, which was even a shock to me. Though it was a blog about abuse, it became one of the best things I ever did in life. I discovered who I was as a writer. I met some amazing people. I brought awareness about religious abuse in the UK. The blog revived me, brought back my faith in humanity, and even led the love of my life Ghanaian musician Kofi Nino to me. Today I am the happiest woman because of love.

Again, my dear readers, my second blog had nothing to do with Facebook. For over a year, not once did I ever share or discuss my blog on Facebook, yet it had almost 2 000 000 hits.

This blog,’Just Jean’ was a new beginning for me.  Leaving the past behind me, in March 2016 I started this blog where I write my opinions about current issues, especially issues affecting the black community.

This blog has been the best in my career as a writer. Within a year,  I started blogging for the Huffington Post, and my blogs on such an international platform have been very successful. As this year began I was offered to be a columnist for a popular Ghanaian news site, Modern Ghana after my New Year Article on African False Prophets was shared all over Africa.

After all the success I had received through this blog, I started being harassed and bullied on Facebook by Zimbabwean Facebook socialite Mike Tashaya. It all started when he took my article and shared it without aknowledging me as the writer. When I asked him not to share my articles without acknowledging me, he then apologised. However after the “apology” he became vindictive, and started sharing my articles to open me up to abuse, often mocking me.

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Even though Mike Tashaya is the one who sought my friendship, today he has become my biggest cyber bully on Facebook because of my work

What I have learnt about bullies is that they are normally very charming. They have a lot of friends or followers and are manipulative and calculating. Most of the times they bully from behind the scenes, and let their friends and followers do the work whilst they mastermind everything, creating a platform for the bullying. This is why bullies are always able to get away with bullying, leaving the victim broken with no support. On Mike Tashaya’s Facebook wall, where he boasts of having a huge traffic and many Zimbabwean followers, his cyber bullying tactics are normally subtle, with a lot of help from his followers, he is able to single out a person and attack them, mostly women.

What has hurt me the most and my main reason for leaving Facebook is that on his wall, it is claimed that my success of this blog is down to Mike Tashaya and his 20 000 followers. They claim that even though I am being harassed on his wall, he is the most popular Facebook personality in Zimbabwe so he is making my articles “popular” each time he shares them.

I want to make it clear to Mike Tashaya and his followers, that no one has ever made me “famous” or “popular”. Even Huffington Post can not claim to make me famous. Modern Ghana can not claim to make me famous. I have worked hard for my name as a blogger and writer, and I will not let you Mike Tashaya use me and harras me for something I have worked so hard for.

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On his wall, Mike Tashaya mentions my name and says he enjoys to watch people destroyed on social media
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On Mike Tashaya’s wall Ghanaian woman is told that she is Satan and people from Ghana are so dark like a black moth

I will not let your abuse and harassment threaten the life of my unborn baby. I got where I got without your 20 000 followers. I have seen enough bullying on Facebook and I refuse to stay in a toxic environment.

Yesterday Mike Tashaya’s  followers were threatening to tag me on his wall so I could see the abuse. I was once tagged on his wall where I was being called all sorts of hurtful derogatory names. Yesterday I had to resort to blocking him, but I realised that it was not enough.

Three women who have tried to stand for me on Mike Tashaya’s Facebook wall have been “savaged” by his followers as Mike Tashaya calls it. One Ghanaian woman was racially abused for being a Ghanaian,  told that Ghanaians are too black and ugly, and called all sorts of derogatory Ghanaian names because she had tried to defend me. Yesterday another Zimbabwean woman tried to defend me and was called ugly and fat on Mike Tashaya’s wall by his followers.

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Mike Tashaya boasted that his followers had “savaged” a woman after she tried to defend me.
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A woman who tried to defend me was overpowered on Mike’s wall

I have to leave Facebook, because even though I am a strong woman, it hurts me to see women being bullied on Mike Tashaya’s Facebook wall because they are trying to fight bullying on my behalf. Yesterday I was hurt because in my 10 years a writer and blogger, no man has ever claimed to contribute to my writing success, and certainly not a man who is bullying me and using my hard work to attack me.

To my dear Facebook followers, the few I had, those who always stood by me, I will certainly miss you. But I am not a writer because of Facebook. Facebook has never contributed in any way to the success of my work. I will continue to write, I will write like I have never written before. I will not let the bullying by Zimbabweans on Facebook bring negative energy to my work, and certainly not Mike Tashaya.

When my marriage became an unhealthy abusive environment for me, I had to walk away. When the church became an unhealthy environment for me I had to leave. Facebook has become an unhealthy abusive environment for me, leaving is not a sign of weakness but to maintain the strength I have and to explore new areas.

It’s 2017, its time for me to be adventurous with Twitter and Instagram. It’s time to expand my horizons on this journey of mine as a writer. With or without Facebook, my pen shall ever write.

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11 thoughts on “Yes, Because Of Facebook Personality Mike Tashaya, I Have Decided To Leave Facebook

  1. Sorry Jean that’s heartbreaking to read. You can report the bullying to Facebook but I say well done for putting your baby first. It seems a battle not worth fighting. I love your blogs, keep your chin up and keep writing.

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  2. Often at times bullies are characterized by low esteem themselves and feel a sense of achievement when they hide behind a keyboard abusing other individuals. One clear thing is envy, envy for the following this woman enjoys, especially if the whole rhetoric of “my followers this , my followers that is anything to go by. It is quite obnoxious that a grown ass man would take pride in typing that an individual is bitter coz they were savaged by your followers, really? Characteristic of spineless excuses of men…. I find it very disturbing that other men can actually join in to abuse a woman, worse fellow women!! You did well daughter of the soil

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  3. Jean you mentioned you write for Ghana. Why don’t you send what was said about Ghanains on Mike’s FB. This is racism and unacceptable. They need to be called out for racism of Ghana if anything.

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  4. No one is what they are by themselves. We need one another. Even those who abused u, contributed to what u are today. You need people Jean. God is in the people. You need facebook. You need Zimbabweans as much as you need Ganah and their Star. Hate no one, hurt no one. If you count your enemies much, you grow them.

    Cast your bread(seed) upon many waters(Ecc11v6). Water in that verse is referring to people, with some who don’t seem to give apparent return. Acknowledge them for their positive potential, directly or indirectly. Imagine Jesus needing Saul of Tarsus, his persecutor, who indeed turned out to be real gold.

    You need people. Work on your perception. Learn to see gold as gold even in mud. Great people don’t curse their dark moments(Deut23v7).

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  5. Its a sad development. I feel people should be able to share ideas and exchange words without resorting to any form of bullying or name calling. My advise is stay strong and do what you love regardless.

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  6. Oh, well, he really got to you. You probably know better since you are the one with first hand experience of what “Mike” did, but I don’t think going off Facebook is the right thing to do. That guy, Mike, judging from what you were saying, runs a collective bondage of lewd people who aimlessly swing at anyone. His posts have punctuation errors among other things. Instead of feeling offended, I think you should be feeling sorry for him. A good life is hard to build and, if what you were saying was right, you built yours quite good. Mike’s life, I stand under correction, is one of many such, in our country. Misery loves company and that’s why he drags you down to his level where he presses your buttons in a ground obviously unfamiliar to you.

    My advice to you is that you need to build tolerance. Never let anyone live in your mind rent-free. Use Occam’s Razor whenever you can, set standards of the people you build relationship with and stick to them. Lastly, be an actor, not a reactor. Actors think up lasting solutions with a disciplined mind whilst reactors build their lives on the basis of how others have affected them.

    All the same, I stand under correction in what I have said.

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  7. Come on people you really believe in cyberbullying, come the fuck on… If you gonna kill itself over a Facebook post then you weak anyway…. There are people in Syria dodging missiles all day long, Jean u just wanted to leave Facebook let be real here… I think there is an unfollown, block, unfriend button somewhere on Facebook, shiiii there even employ people to take cyber bullying reports, fucking waste if money imo but we have to create jobs right… The internet is a free speech zone… Catch a trash talker in person if you have any issues of block the notherfucker..

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