This is a rather long read…I couldn’t have possibly made it shorter…
So today as I was reflecting on the life of my President Robert Mugabe, God rest his soul, and his late wife Sally Mugabe, I could not help but ponder on why God allowed this man to marry a Ghanaian woman. It is a rare thing, for a Ghanaian woman to marry a Southern African man, especially a Zimbabwean man, even though Zimbabwean women are always being taken by Ghanaian men. Mugabe must have been chosen, I thought.
One thing I know, there is a deep connection between Zimbabwe and Ghana, but the connection only lies between Ghanaian men and Zimbabwean women.
But the interesting thing is Zimbabwean women are loud and rowdy compared to Ghanaian women. Ghanaian women are calm, and have the sweetest temperament about them. One has to look at Mugabe’s two wives Sally and Grace, to prove this point. Sally was quiet and calm, and Grace was almost mad. The calm one was a Ghanaian, and the loud one was a Zimbabwean.
Well funny enough among the Zimbabweans, Sally was loved and always known as the real wife and mother of Zimbabwe, whilst Grace was disrespected and known as the side chick, (concubine) of the president.
Well, since I shared my journey of Boaz searching for a second wife, over the past weeks, I have had so much angry reactions from Zimbabwean women. “We told you so Jean. It was all too good to be true..” They say. “West African men are like that, so many Zimbabwean women have been used and dumped by Ghanaian and Nigerians, only to be replaced by their proper wives from their countries” These are the confessions of angry Zimbabwean women who follow me. “There is no way a West African man will marry a Zimbabwean woman, especially one with children, they prefer their own women.” They say to me with so much conviction and anger. They do not know their anger is coming from somewhere.
They think they are laughing at me, but they do not realize that with their own mouths, they are confessing to something which is very deep, especially in the spiritual realm.
There is no easier way for me to say this, but yes, Zimbabwean women are right, many of them have lived to testify, especially in the Diaspora. Many of them have been left holding babies whilst the West African they dated blissfully go and marry their own Ghanaian and Nigerian women. Its a well known secret. West African men will discuss that if they want their lives sorted, they have to find a Zimbabwean woman, they will talk about how Zimbabwean women are always ready. In fact, they will go as far as to snatch Zimbabwean married women, sleep with them and just leave them. I have heard enough horror stories about the plight of Zimbabwean women in the hands of West African men in the UK.
Zimbabwean women are even known to Nigerians especially, as being lose. They are known to provide “free pussies” to West Africans. Its not hard to get Zim women into bed, they say.
So when I met my Ghanaian Boaz, Zimbabweans were talking, especially my family. “Oh he’s just using her, lets see where it will all end. West African men can not be trusted.”
Now let me be totally honest with ya’ll. The reason why West African men can take any Zimbabwean woman they wish, (married or not) in most cases, is because Zimbabwean women are concubines by nature. They are trained from a young age to be sexual toys of men. They are trained on the art of seduction and how to please men in bed. Their vaginas are modified for this sole purpose. They are trained to be the delight of men, which is another definition of concubine.
West African men, especially Ghanaian and Nigerians are Kings. That is why these men stand out from all Africans. These men dominate Africa. Globally they remain the most talented of all Africans. Go to Kenya or even Tanzania, the women love West African men, sometimes even over their own men. These women, subconsciously naturally submit to Nigerians and Ghanaians. Basically, Nigerians and Ghanaians can take any women they want on the continent, they command that power, but other African men are not able to do that, unless you are Robert Mugabe of course, you can marry a Ghanaian.
It is rare for Ghanaian women to marry outside Ghana, but Ghanaian men do take women from other African countries, especially Southern Africa, and these women will bow to them over their own men.
Now this brings me to my point, over the past weeks, I have seen Zimbabwean women confess this with their own mouths, many who would have obviously slept with West Africans.
Secretly Zimbabwean women love West Africans. They say they are better in bed, last longer and are better endowed in the trousers department. Speaking from experience, I do agree that West Africans are God’s gift to us women. When I was married to a Zimbabwean fool, I was such a damsel in distress, I tried to take my life a number of times. When they are with us, West Africans are ever so charming, they ain’t boring either.
Anyway, when you go back to history, and study who Ghanains and Nigerians actually are, most of them are the descendants of Shem. So these men were actually blessed by God to be Kings and rule over their brethren Ham. Zimbabweans, and South Africans especially are the descendants of Ham, they are naturally born to serve, so how much more their women? It explains why Southern African women, especially Zimbabweans are obsessed with sex and pleasing men in bed. I was born in Zimbabwe so I know these things to be true.
When you go back in history, these women would have been the concubines of the Shemites, (Nigerians and Ghanaians). West Africans wont know this, but they will find themselves desiring Zimbabweans, wishing they would just have some of that delight, the big bums and round figures. The women are always willingly ready to submit and serve, playing the role of seductresses, not knowing they are simply being concubines.
In Israel’s history, concubines were even believed to be delights of only Kings. King David had 10 of them, probably more. If an Israelite man wanted to fulfill his highest sexual fantasy and desire, they did not go to their wives, they went to their concubines. That was the purpose of concubines. Remember the Levite in the Book of Judges who threw his concubine out for the rapists? A wife was respected, and she would not be expected to do certain things on the marriage bed, the husband made love to the wife instead, and she bore heirs. The concubine serviced the husband and kept him happy.
This is actually a picture of the God of Israel. In the bible God describes Israel as his wife, his beloved and chosen. The other nations have their purpose, they are like the concubines of the Most High. Wives of a lower status, born to serve.
God does not love everyone the same. Some he favors over others. Israel he loves, Esau he hates.
If one understands this principal, they will understand God, and they will not need to suffer unnecessary pain in life. The world is in such a fallen state right now, everything is upside down, such that women do not even know their places anymore.
Some are meant to be concubines, some are meant to be wives. With this balance the world would be a peaceful place and black women would not be in so much anguish, want and distress.
Funny enough, nowadays there is an epidemic of side chicks especially in the black community. Women who are happy to be side chicks, knowing that their man has his wife at home and would never leave her for them.
The Irony of it all is Zimbabwean women are known for being side-chicks of West African men. They confess it with their own mouths, one just has to visits my Facebook page and read their comments.
Everything we do in the physical begins in the spiritual. Sometimes we do not know why a certain group of people behave a certain way. Most of our behaviors as a group of people or as a nation goes back to our genetics. A lot of people perish for lack of knowledge.
A lot of Zimbabwean women, beautiful ones at that, have been left in distress by West African men who chose their own women over them. These Zimbabwean women simply refused to acknowledge their positions in the lives of these West Africans, that they were concubines. If they accepted and acknowledged that they are not meant to be wives, but concubines of West Africans, who are Kings to them, then they would have been a lot happier. Better than being abandoned and left for a life of spinsterhood, holding a baby too. Most of these Zimbabwean sisters, after West Africans are done with them, their fate is normally worse.
Like I said before, some people are chosen and some are not. Some people are born to be masters, some are born to serve. The world would never function without that dynamic.
Transatlantic slave trade was such an inhuman atrocity in human history because the chosen became the slaves. The Europeans knew this, so they exercised no mercy at all. Its like being given power to do whatsoever you want to your boss at work, if you are a psycho, you will do the most cruel, inhuman thing to your boss. That is exactly what happened with the transatlantic slave trade. Its like what happened to Samson, when Delilah cut his locks and the Philistines captured him, they became inhuman to him.
Sometimes here and there, the roles are reversed, servants rule over their masters, and masters become servants. But through it all, destiny always over rules one way or the other.
For that reason, so many Zimbabwean women can’t help but fall for West African men, and when they do, West African men can not help but treat them as concubines. Nature without reason tells them to.
If Zimbabwean women especially in the diaspora knew that they are only the concubines of West Africans, and accepted their fate, which is their blessing, none of the thousands of Zimbabweans would have been spinsters today, their lords would have gladly taken them as concubines, whilst they marry their own women. And even though the West Africans will have their own women as wives, they will still treat their concubines way better than their Zimbabwean husbands will ever do.
So am I a concubine of my Boaz, one may ask, since I was born in Zimbabwe and my husband is a Ghanaian? Well, if I wasn’t chosen, of course I would have been. I wouldn’t have been bitter one, or try to be what I am not, lest I become a damsel in distress forever. Better be a concubine of a Ghanaian than a wife of a Zimbabwean I was married to. There is nothing more satisfying than living in your realm of your destiny.
And so did Tamar…well almost when she slept with Judah
The Genesis Of The Revelation by
Mary-Tamar was Jean