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hey so i need advice on how to find a sugar daddy because my student loans are killing me and working 3 jobs isn’t my dream.
what is the best place to find a sugar daddy that aren’t scams? i’ve heard horror stories about salt daddies. need real recommendations 🙏
11Best AnswerGirl YES try SugarDaddy, SecretBenefits, or SugarDaddyMeet. I been on SecretBenefits for 8 months now and it’s legit and even possible to find sugar daddy without meeting. I made my profile, got like 10 offers first week, found someone decent after filtering through the weirdos
My arrangement is $2k/month plus he covers my car note. We meet twice a week, sometimes just dinner sometimes more depends on mood. He’s 48, owns restaurants, actually pretty cool to talk to
Free to sign up and browse but the guys pay to message you so make your pics GOOD432Girl YES try SugarDaddy, SecretBenefits, or SugarDaddyMeet. I been on SecretBenefits for 8 months now and it’s legit and even possible to find... Read more...
ok wait so how does the money part work? like do they just venmo you or what? and is it awkward to talk about??
30ok wait so how does the money part work? like do they just venmo you or what? and is it awkward to talk about??
Most guys do cash or cashapp/venmo. some do bank transfer but I prefer cashapp cuz its faster. NEVER accept checks they can bounce
Once you meet in person and vibe is good, bring it up. “so i was thinking $X per month works for me, what do you think?” My SD literally said “thank god you brought it up i was nervous to” lol. they know why they’re on these sites, they just want you to be clear about your needs
Some girls do pay per meet (like $500 per date) but I prefer monthly allowance cuz its more stable22ok wait so how does the money part work? like do they just venmo you or what? and is it awkward to talk about??
I’ll be real with you – get a sugar daddy is not as glamorous as tiktok makes it seem lol. I tried this last year and met 5 different guys before finding one that wasn’t a creep. First dude wanted me to call him daddy (NOPE), second guy was married and lying about it, third was broke pretending to have money 💀 Finally found someone through SugarDaddyMeet who’s normal. we do allowance not pay per meet $1500/month plus dinners/shopping.
BUT the emotional labor is REAL. You’re basically a therapist who looks good in a dress.
23Quick input from a SD perspective since you asked.
Best way to find a sugar daddy – be honest in your profile, have recent photos, know your boundaries BEFORE you start talking to anyone.
We can smell desperation and lies from a mile away. If your profile says “just looking for a mentor” but your messages are immediately asking for money, we’re out.I use SecretBenefits mainly. My current SB is 25, grad student, we’ve been together 9 months. $3K/month plus I help with tuition. We meet 2-3x weekly.
This works because we’re BOTH clear about expectations. No games, no drama, mutual respect.
Also ALWAYS meet in public first. I don’t care how nice a guy seems, protect yourself301honestly i tried this for 4 months and quit. not for me. websites to find sugar daddies online are fine i guess but the guys on there… girl. one showed up 20 years older than his pics, another one got mad when i wouldn’t go to his hotel on the FIRST meeting, one kept asking for “free samples”… maybe i just had terrible luck but i’d rather be broke than deal with that again lol
28^^^ you avoid it by having STANDARDS from the start
I been doing this 2 years and learned the hard way. now my rules:- public meeting first ALWAYS
- no money talk until we meet in person
- if he rushes you into anything RUN
- google reverse image search his pics
- trust your gut
Find real sugar daddies by looking for verified profiles with actual info filled out. if his profile is just “generous man seeking beauty” with no pics – block.
My current SD found ME actually. he sent a thoughtful message about something in my profile, we texted for a week, met for coffee, vibed, and worked out our arrangement from there.He’s 52, lawyer, gives me $2800/month. we meet once a week usually friday nights. dinner, his place, i leave by midnight. been 7 months now. is it ideal? no. does it pay my rent and let me focus on my business instead of working retail? yes
15finding a sugar daddy changed my life but also complicated it
👍 pros:
- not stressed about money anymore
- quit my toxic job
- taking different courses to find myself
- my SD is actually cool, we laugh and talk about interests
👎 cons:
- can’t tell anyone (my family thinks i got a promotion lmao)
- regular dating is weird now
- sometimes i feel guilty even though its consensual
- constant fear someone will find out
Met him on apps to find a sugar daddy last year. $2500/month plus he covers my car. we meet twice a week. he’s 45, divorced, runs a company.
23SD here (33) – started young in this lifestyle.
What I look for: intelligence, conversation skills, someone who reads, has hobbies, can handle business dinners.
What turns me off: immediate money requests, fake photos, “hey daddy” messages, zero personality.I spend $2-3K/month on my current SB. shes 24, grad school, we been together 8 months. genuinely enjoy her company which is the whole point.
It’s possible to find a sugar daddy online but understand what you signing up for. this aint free money, its work.12Question for the girls here do yall actually LIKE your SDs or is it just acting?? im considering this but worried ill feel fake the whole time.
8Question for the girls here do yall actually LIKE your SDs or is it just acting?? im considering this but worried ill feel fake the whole time.
Mix of both tbh. some days i genuinely enjoy hanging out with him, he’s funny and interesting. other days its definitely work and im counting down til i can leave
but thats life right? even regular relationships have days where you’re not feeling it. at least this one pays my bills 💅14Be picky!! you dont have to accept the first offer you get, also discuss EVERYTHING upfront: allowance amount, meeting frequency, boundaries, what happens if someone wants to end it, get it in writing if possible (some girls do contracts but i just do texts so theres a record).
good luck babe! 💕
17ok wait so how does the money part work? like do they just venmo you or what? and is it awkward to talk about??
Also dont quit your job right away lol. Where to find a sugar daddy for free you know, most niche sites are free to chat for ladies, but make sure the arrangement is stable first. Some guys flake after a month.
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