"I love my natural hair mummy, but it's so hard to maintain it. I'm tempted to put braids in my hair, but I won't do it because I don't want to sin against God." These were the words of my 14-year-old daughter today. She's my firstborn and my first love. She's a credit to … Continue reading Mummy, I’m Tempted To Put Braids In My Hair But I Don’t Want To Sin Against God
Having 6 children has not stopped me from being the woman I want to be. It's not easy but I still have to try my best to stay young and beautiful. Even if it means having my make-up done whilst holding my new-born Chaka. Talking of make-up, I remember last year Jamelia made some headlines … Continue reading Mother Of 6 Diaries: Sometimes Beauty Has To Come First
Yesterday I received a very touching comment on one of my articles from a beautiful melanin goddess called Victoria. And this is what she said... My life is proof that most black men prefer fair skinned. Me and my sister got same mother and father (biological) and I am brown skin with beautiful copper red … Continue reading Dear Jean, My Life Is Proof That Most Black Men Prefer Light Skin.
Recently I was having a conversation with a friend who has a teenage boy, and she told me that her son told her that he doesn't date black girls. It was quite sad because the way she said it was as though it was something to be proud of, that her son is not attracted … Continue reading Why I Am Teaching My Boys To Date Black Girls
In the wake of Beyoncé's father Mathew Knowles's remarks that Beyoncé would not have been as famous had she had darker skin, two black women went on to debate the controversial issue of skin lightening on ITV's This Morning. The first woman, presenter AJ Odudu was there to advocate that black women should be proud … Continue reading Irene Major Is Right, Wearing A Wig Is No Different To Skin Bleaching.
Today marks exactly 8 weeks (2 months) since Charo was born and I am celebrating because I feel healthy, happy and blessed. Yesterday my 8 year old son Kunashe who is my photographer, took some pictures of me, and some of my followers asked me what my beauty secrets where. Beauty is a natural gift, … Continue reading Being A Mother Is Not An Excuse To Let Yourself Go
Yes, I know. Backward thinking. Colonized corroded mentality. Mental slavery at it's best. Pathetic Self-hating mindset. Who would say such a thing? 'Everyone wants a light skinned baby'. Well, that is what one slave, a self-hating Zimbabwean man said on my Facebook page in response to my article on my beautiful new baby Charo. I … Continue reading Everyone Wants A Light Skinned Baby
I have never understood the obsession with light skin among black people. All my girls are blessed with melanin-rich skin, and they are beyond beautiful, inside and out. They ooze black beauty, especially our latest addition to the family, Charo. She is dark and beautiful. I could not help but share these gorgeous pictures of her … Continue reading Charo My Melanin Goddess
As this month celebrates International Womens Day, I will be writing articles that encourage women to break barriers and stigmas about motherhood in the 21st Century. I am currently celebrating the birth of my 5th baby Charo, and I personally feel there is nothing more rewarding to a woman than being a mother. I totally … Continue reading Returning To The Innocence Of Breastfeeding
When I was young, growing up in Africa in a country where lighter skinned women are the epitome of beauty, I once asked a woman whom I looked up to why women with light skin were considered more beautiful than women with dark skin. Her answer was straightforward, "Because men like women with lighter skin, … Continue reading Why I Blame The Black Man For Black People’s Self-Hate