Why A Woman Should Never Leave Her Husband For Cheating

I don’t think a woman should ever leave her husband because he has cheated. That should never be the only reason for her to walk away.

When a man is a good provider. When he shows his wife respect. When he rightfully treats her as his queen. When he doesn’t deny her her conjugal rights. When he protects her from her enemies and gives her good counsel. When he is a good father to his children. When he wants the best for his wife and helps her career excel. Then there is more than sexual love in the marriage. There is companionship, friendship, and purpose. If his intention is never to divorce his wife but wants to spend the rest of his life with her but he has cheated in a moment of weakness and insanity, then why should a woman throw all the love, security and purpose away because of one wrong?

Why allow another woman to come and take your place and get the ‘good man’ in him? Why allow another woman to come and have children for your husband and jeopardize your children’s inheritance? What guarantee do you have that you will get a man who is better than your husband? What guarantee do you have that your next man will not cheat on you?

When it comes to cheating husbands, most of the times women listen to ‘motivational’ speeches by women who are single. Most women would rather listen to ‘friends advice’ on how not to take bullshit from their husbands. The world will give the women all the reasons to leave such a marriage. But no one ever tells women that most of the times the grass is never greener on the other side either. If anything the grass is rather dry on the other side. No one will be there with the ‘motivational quotes’ when the woman is a single mother struggling emotionally, socially and sexually.

No one will be there with the motivational quotes when the woman is now being used by men who have no intention of marrying her but just want to defile her.

I know a lot of women will find this article rather unfair. But that is the reality of life. Women will say that it should be the same if a woman cheats too, the husband should just forgive her. Well, the world doesn’t quite work like that. Women and men are different. When a man has sex with a woman, he is the giver. It can be purely sexual and not emotional. But when a woman has sex with a man, she’s the receiver, and her emotions become tied to the man.

As I have matured over the years, I have seen women whose husbands have cheated on them, chose to forgive and fight for their marriage and today they are way better off than they would have been had they listened to people and ended their marriages. On the other hand, I have seen women who left their husbands for cheating and sadly they remain spinsters or never find true love. Off course cheating is bad and very hurtful, and it takes a lot to rebuild the trust again and move on, but I do not believe it is good enough reason for a woman to leave her husband in pursuit of a new ‘non-cheating partner’.

Life is never a bunch of red roses. Even the best marriages have trials. Sometimes those trials sadly involve cheating. It is awful and never justifiable, but it should never be the sole reason why a woman has to walk away.

I think the most justifiable reason for a woman to divorce her husband is when he is abusive and cruel. When he takes away her dignity and sanity. When he belittles her and treats her as though she is not his wife. When he violates her human rights and there is no ounce of any form of love, respect and affection for her. When he deals treacherously with her heart, when her sanity, purpose, and dignity is compromised because of the marriage, then, of course, she has no choice but to leave.

When I walked away from my first marriage, cheating had nothing to do with it. There was no purpose, friendship, dignity, and no love. My entire existence and sanity were being compromised. It got to a point where my life was in danger.

When a marriage is like that, I don’t even think the man is your husband. He is rather the enemy of your soul.

But I can understand women like Victoria Beckham, Vannessa Bryant, Beyonce and many who forgave and stayed with their cheating husbands. There is no way these strong willed women would have found better men than their current husbands. These women have men who have helped them find their destiny and purpose. Their husbands have elevated them and put them on high places. Their husbands are more than lovers to them.

I can understand why Kasi Bennett never left Usain Bolt because of the cheating scandals. Usain has success, financial security, and power. We can lie to each other that money doesn’t matter in a relationship, but it does. We spend all our lives chasing money and success. So why would Kasi Bennet give all that up to other women?

In 2010, Tiger Woods’s wife Elin Nordegren chose to listen to the world and left her cheating husband even though Tiger Woods pleaded with her to give him another chance. Ever since she left her husband, she has always been in and out of relationships. It’s truly obvious that the grass has never been greener on the other side. I think she would have been better off had she given her husband another chance.

I am yet to see a woman who left her husband for cheating and she found true love on the other side. Life is not a bed of roses. I’m not defending cheating men, but unfortunately, ‘cheating’ is not excluded in the ‘for better or worse’ vows.

And recently I can understand why heavily pregnant Colleen Rooney is not in a haste to walk away from Wayne Rooney. Without Wayne Rooney, she would have never had the life she has. They have children together. They are more than just lovers. Why would she walk away and give another woman her children’s inheritance? I have so much respect for these women who refuse the ‘strong independent woman’ garbage.

Women should think with their heads and not emotions when it comes to their husbands cheating. Motivational messages about how to be a strong independent woman can be very deceptive. Cheating is never a strong enough reason to throw away your marriage and let another woman come and enjoy what you worked hard for, and worse more bear children for the man you obviously still love.

 

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8 thoughts on “Why A Woman Should Never Leave Her Husband For Cheating

  1. Uchafira mafufu se gozho. A man will cheat and bring you a disease and you will be there claiming he gives you a good life that’s why I won’t walk. What kind of woman are you? Desperate to live a life you can’t afford & will sacrifice your health yes I said health just kunzi Mrs. May all the sensible women not listen to your destructive words. You’re the reason a lot of men don’t take their vows and commitments seriously.

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    1. Jean said bad men who abuse their women do not deserve to be married. What she did not say is that there are also bad women who abuse their womanhood by bearing down on men expecting them to perform like gods, when they are also only human. Most of those women see men as enemies and not as partners. They have been so infected by the imancipation frenzy, that they are in constant competition with men, while at the same time running aroung looking sexy and trying to hook up with a male. These are lost women. I can tell you that most men appreciate Jean’s words because most men are not idiots who do all the stupid things you mentioned here. They feel Jean’s words because they know their cheating was a mistake and would like to save their marriages. But because of the idiotic advise of cold hearted ugly feminists, many women are now blindfolded and fail to seperate the wheat from the chaff.

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  2. My mum contracted several STDs thanks to wonderful advice like this. My dad has 4 extra children with 3 different women which we only found out about 3 years ago. My mum’s fear of being a single mother being judged by people for letting ‘a good god fearing providing man’ go over the occasional moments of weakness ( which was all she caught him in) .
    As a grown woman I now despise my mums weakness I detest the ‘friends’ who gave her ‘real world’ advice. It breaks my heart that she wasted her life on a piece of shit like my dad and both of them can go to hell.

    What you fail to factor in is that infidelity isn’t just sex. Several couples actually have open relationships where they’re aware if one another’s lovers. Infidelity is much much more than sex and in my experience this amount of rationalisation is only done by women who are resigned to not being enough for their men so lay the foundation for making excuses in advance.
    Really disappointed in this entire article.
    Eloquently Encouraging vulnerable hurt women to allow men to exploit their love for them is beneath you.

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    1. It would have been a surprise if no women came out firing feeling hurt by the writer’s strong and bold words against the self-fooling ideas of today’s women. The proganda has done a lot of damage already by giving women false promises that they are better off alone than with a man. The results are starting to show, but a lot more will come and more women realise that its all been a lie by egoistic feminists.

      What you fail to get is that Jean did not say a woman should NEVER LEAVE her husband NO MATTER WHAT! Instead she said crystal clear that if the man is the woman’s man, the one god gave her, who is actually the one she loves and who actually is the one who gives her the feeling of being the special person she wants to be, and overall is and has been a good man to her, then it would be a mistake to leave such a man just because he cheated.

      It’s not the same as staying with a chronic cheating person who when he does that obviously does not care about his wife and is simply an idiot. There is a difference.

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  3. When he shows his wife respect. Isnt cheating disrespect.?
    When he rightfully treats her as his queen. If you cheating, aint that WRONGFULLY treating her.?
    When he doesn’t deny her her conjugal rights. In most cases niggas be full by the they get to the mrs at home.
    When he protects her from her enemies,”side bitches are the enemies of the main chick!”,
    “Stop seeking validation from these bitch niggers”, and gives her good counsel.
    When he wants the best for his wife. Really, cheats and wants the best for you? mmhh

    And by the way ain’t no way Beyonce gonna leave jayz and take half his starch like she wrote half his raps, girl pliz.!

    Like with Tiger my man btw, the wife had every right to leave whether she did it to please the public we don’t know…

    If you really need dick that bad getvyiu a side nigga, but all jokes aside protect yourselves in these relationships ladies and gents, HIV is real, shit you need to fear herpes and these other STDs outchea……

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