As this month celebrates International Womens Day, I will be writing articles that encourage women to break barriers and stigmas about motherhood in the 21st Century. I am currently celebrating the birth of my 5th baby Charo, and I personally feel there is nothing more rewarding to a woman than being a mother.
I totally disagree with the speech that Viola Davis gave when she won her oscar and said, “acting is the only profession that celebrates what it means to live a life“. That was just wrong and I felt offended as a mother. If there is any profession that celebrates life, it’s called motherhood. For me, a true picture of the purity and beauty of motherhood takes me back to my childhood, when I saw women being free to do the most natural thing a mother can ever do to their child: breastfeeding.
When I was growing up in Africa, I never saw the breast of a woman as something inappropriate or indecent, especially that of a woman nursing a child. I saw women breastfeeding their babies in parks, in buses, sitting under trees, at the markets, even walking in the streets and just about anywhere where you find people. If a baby cried in public, the normal thing was for the mother to get her breast out and feed her baby, regardless of who was in her presence. No men were turned on or offended by the breast of a nursing mother. It was seen as the beauty of mother nature, where the wellbeing and life of a defenseless little child were solely dependent on the breast of its mother.
I was made to feel like I was doing something shameful. I was then taken inside the house where I was told was the appropriate place to breastfeed my baby. Sadly I was still a very timid woman then. I could not stand up for myself or for my baby. I was very upset about how I was treated at that party, I felt like my joy and freedom of being a mother was being robbed from me for no reason at all. It was more upsetting coming from black Africans. I could not understand why they had adopted the British culture of being offended by breastfeeding.
My favorite song at the moment is Enigma’s Return To Innocence. It’s a song about not being afraid to be yourself. It’s a song about allowing yourself to be innocent again. It’s about love, devotion, feeling, and emotion. These days it’s always on repeat in my house.
I think Return To Innocence is the most beautiful song ever written. So many times in life we miss out on the most beautiful moments because we are too worried about things that may not even come to be. Sometimes we miss out on life’s precious gifts because we are too busy being worried about the opinion of others and things that do not even matter.